Black men are not children and not the wards of black women. It is wrong to infantilize them just to place the responsibility for their actions and responsibility for what they have become on black women. Black men need to be seen as self directing and autonomous and have made their choices on how they want to live their lives given the options placed before them.

If they are not choosing to put their weight behind their community, or build with black women or if they choose lifestyles or get caught in behaviours that make them live below their potentials then that is a choice they have made and it is not because of what black women have or have not done.

If black women can be seen and made responsible for being self-directing and yet are subject to the same forces of racism and in addition sexism, why cant black men’s actions and activities be placed firmly at the feet of black men?