Living Well

Does it seem like the only empowerment of women discussed in the media is about us feeling ‘empowered’ to sleep around with many men and not be judged or feel bad about it?

We don’t spend nearly enough time talking about, for example, strategies women can use in various industries in order to progress in their careers. 

It’s either talk about sex or obesity.  ”Women can be as fat as they like and should not be judged.”

Why are these the main issues that come up when talking about equality or empowerment for women?

Fat Acceptance

You won’t find it on here. Period. Debate it somewhere else.

God forbid you mention the stats about 2/3’s of bw who are either obese or overweight. All hell breaks loose. Trust me, I used to be that fool in denial about my weight and fighting everyone who was trying to help me : /

What are your thoughts about this post? Are bw ready to have a serious conversation about the state of our health or we going to cover our ears and scream “I’M BIG SEXY”??

Live Well!

on the other hand

neoconsumer:

this may be shallow of me to say (i swear i’m not trying to be) but i feel like 90% of my depression problems would be solved if i was good looking and wasn’t depressed about my weight and appearance and shyness problem(s)

i keep waiting till all thats over to go get help but

days like today i don’t care about anything and can’t get any work done, so i don’t know

I hope you don’t mind me making a mini-post out of this :)

“this may be shallow of me to say (i swear i’m not trying to be) but i feel like 90% of my depression problems would be solved if i was good looking and wasn’t depressed about my weight and appearance and shyness problem(s)”

Why is that shallow? You are speaking the truth! :) That is how I felt when I was reaaaally heavy. Most sane people are miserable when they are carrying extra weight and don’t feel good/confident about themselves. At least you can admit that. Instead you have these fat acceptance cheerleaders trying to turn it around and say they are the ones that are fine and thinner people are the ones that need to cater to them. Nope. Never gunna happen.

It wasn’t until I addressed why I was overeating (emotional reasons) and cut out processed foods and started exercising more, that I started to feel better about myself. Even though there were some weeks when the weight just wouldn’t come off, my body and my mind just felt better. I’m telling you, there is so much garbage in the food we eat, it is ridiculous (Anyone seen Food Inc?).

I’m not sure what you would describe as a shyness problem, but I realized that even though i was smaller, I still wan’t outgoing as I thought I’d be. More confident, yes! But still a bit shy. I think it actually in the interests of bw to be less crass, loud, vulgar, etc, like unfortunately most of us are and instead be a bit more reserved, light and feminine. Either way we draw attention to ourselves. One just happens to be a better way of doing it :)

(Source: camgymeriad)

What is there to celebrate in this picture?

The nonsense that is “fat acceptance” should not be touted by black women. Let other women fight that battle. Black women need to wake up and start taking back our womanhood, our femininity, and sense of self. Don’t accept this distorted view of yourself that will “other ” you even more.

I look at Ms. Scott and I can’t help but smh. I am embarrassed that Jill Scott lumped us all together several months ago when she went on CNN to say how much it hurts our feelings anytime black men are with non-black women. Like the coward that she is, instead of speaking for herself, she decided to say we all think this way so she wouldn’t feel alone. smh.

I will try to post more on topics having to do with health and wellness, but know that this blog is not apart of the fat acceptance group and I will not be telling you lies like, “Oh it doesn’t matter what you look like.”

IT DOES MATTER WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE. Anyone who tells you otherwise is lying to you, trying to sabotage you or make sure you miserable with them so that you don’t make the necessary improvements to advance your life.

The time is now to embrace good health and a normal body weight!

Please read Straight Talk About Feminine Aesthetics: Dress Size ≠ Curves; Fat Rolls ≠ Curves to get an idea of where I am coming from and please read the warning. I know a lot of you are not ready for this discussion, but it is taking place nonetheless.

Here is an interesting conversation about Jennifer Hudson’s weight loss and what happens when black women get healthy.

Live Well!